The Art of Stillness and going nowhere

There is a saying a friend once told me that we teach what we need to learn and for me this beautifully encapsulates my well-being journey as both a client and therapist.

In my previous life I regularly made unhelpful choices in fact I’d even go so far as to say unkind choices. I burned the candle at both ends, worked in a job that seemed to have taken over my days, I drank to relax and took my caffeine shot to get my fix.

My choices did not help my situation in fact they only helped to make me weary and fall into a negative spiral of working for my holiday. I took long haul flights to exotic destinations to escape and then after a relaxing break I came back for more.

I was on autopilot in so many ways.

I new I needed to change something.

I was scared.

I didn’t think I could do anything else.

Luckily for me I stumbled across a natural food centre which also offered well-being treatments. I booked myself in for a massage and really that was when things slowly, very slowly began to change for me.

It wasn’t like in the movies with an overnight transformation. Hardly.

It was a long journey with several stalls. A re-loaction, new work, training, holiday ( I do like to escape!), new courses, new clients, new workplaces, more training, relationship break up, new home, new workplace, new branding …….

There have been highs and lows throughout the last eleven and a half years since I began my Complementary Therapy training.

Through it all there have been my supports, my foundations of well-being which I know have helped me to move forward at my own pace to this time and space in which I find myself.

Don’t get me wrong I still like to travel and I have to have the occasional long haul flight (it’s hard not to with family overseas) however travel for me is less about running away but more about adventure, nourishing and filling up in a different way to before.

I no longer need to escape my life in the same way. I now know that I have the tools available to create space within my body and mind in the here and now. I don’t need to pack a suitcase or book a flight for this type of journey.

My journey within to stillness and calm.

A few years ago I saw this inspiring TED talk given by the travel writer Pico Iyer in which he talks about The Art of Stillness, of going nowhere and much of what he spoke about I could grasp.

I’d love for you to gift yourself the 15.37 minutes to down tools, make a brew and listen to his words. If you prefer to read them there is a transcript available too. Watch it here

His eloquent presentation includes travel tales and strategies that we all can use to take back a few minutes out of every day, once a month or a few days out of every season. As TED’s blurb  says it’s the talk for many of us who can at times can feel overwhelmed.

At times of overwhelm we need to simplify.

We need to focus on a singular activity – breathing, walking etc

Then from a calmer place with practice, we will know the next ‘way’.

We will know that we can make more mindful choices.

As it is just a matter of choice.

In our world of constant movement and distraction, let’s embrace stillness, space and calm.

It’s my dream that we all move forward, together as a community towards new, kinder choices in a calmer way.

If this is something that you are curious to discover more about then why not come along to the  Loft and explore some of the Healthy Ms or why not join the next Everyday Mindfulness session.

I’d love to support you as you explore finding your inner stillness. Get in touch with me here